Feelings are never wrong, they are simply information.
The experience of inferiority is a common one and can be different for each person, however it is usually described as feeling "less than" or "not good enough."
Good News! The feeling of inferiority does not indicate that there is something wrong with you. These feelings simply let you know that something needs your attention. They serve as a stimulant to personal growth because as human beings, we are rarely satisfied with our current state. We constantly crave growth, progress, and more happiness.
Feelings of inferiority provide:
1. Invitations to take an honest, objective look at things. Take a step back and evaluate what you really want for your life and why that is important to you. Often, we get tangled up in the things we believe others expect of us. It is not possible to satisfy everyone’s expectations, nor is it necessary.
“What you tell yourself every day will lift you up or tear you down. Choose wisely.”
2. Enticements to abandon comparing ourselves to others. Healthy inferiority doesn’t come from comparing ourselves to others, but from comparing ourselves to our own vision of our ideal self.
Turn your focus on yourself by forgetting about what other people are doing. Instead, focus on what you need to do to get closer to your goals and dreams. Focus on your personal values and what is important to YOU.
“Maybe the reason nothing seems to be ‘fixing you’ is because you’re not broken. Let today be the day you stop living within the confines of how others define or judge you. You have a unique beauty and purpose; live accordingly.”
3. Encouragements to know your worth. Notice your strengths instead of obsessing over your weaknesses. In our culture, weakness is being given a strong and powerful spotlight. Don’t give up your personal strengths for the “weakness spotlight”. Acknowledge your own personal strengths, magnify them, and grow them to be giants in your life.
“We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.”
4. Promptings to take empowered action. It can be easy to lose the courage to take a single step forward. When you accept that situations can be improved by making realistic efforts, taking small steps toward the goal becomes second nature!
“I am capable of making an impact. It doesn’t matter how small it is. Everything starts with one step.”
The next time you notice yourself feeling “less than” or “not enough,” rather than feeling bad about it, hit the “pause” button and remember that those feelings are actually there to help you. You have just received an invitation, enticement, encouragement, or prompting to grow, progress, and be happier. Give it some thought and choose your course of action to move you toward your own ideal self!
“Happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy.”
If you would like additional support decoding feelings of inferiority, I offer many more ways for you to step back, discover your own strengths, and take empowered action. All Sessions are by phone or live video call, for your convenience.
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